Getting started with Relationship Recharge

What is Relationship Recharge?

A guided check-in for couples who keep having the same fight. Each person reflects privately. The app maps the pattern underneath both accounts without exposing raw wording to the other person. It is not therapy, not a judge, and not a pressure tool.

How do I start?

1. 1Sign up with your email.
2. 2Click Guided Check-In in the sidebar.
3. 3Choose Just for me if you want a private debrief, or Shared map only if everyone agrees.
4. 4Describe one moment that keeps happening under different names. Be honest — your raw words are never shown to your partner.
5. 5If you start with Just for me, answer what happened and how it felt first. If you start shared mode, each person begins with what happened, what they heard, and what they needed.
6. 6You do not need to finish the whole form to get the first useful read.
7. 7If you want to try the shared map, invite your partner to sign up and do the same.
8. 8When both entries are in and both people consent, the shared map reveals the pattern, overlap, differences, and one repair opening.

Do I need to finish the whole form before it becomes useful?

No. Solo mode is designed to unlock the first private debrief after two honest starter answers. Shared mode becomes useful after each person answers the three starter prompts first. The remaining prompts are there to deepen the read, not block the first one.

What does my partner see?

Nothing unless you both agree. Raw private entries stay hidden by default. They auto-hide after a few minutes of inactivity. The shared map shows only the synthesized pattern — not your original words. Both people must check the consent box before anything is shared.

What is the review gate?

Before the full shared map appears, the app gives a private preview of the surface issue, deeper issue, and repair opportunity. Use that pause to decide whether sharing still feels safe and useful.

What happens after the first check-in?

After a real private debrief or shared map, you can save a follow-up rhythm on this device. Choose tomorrow, 48 hours, or one week, pick the tone you want back, and note whether the first pass felt useful, confusing, too intense, unsafe, or worth trying again. The dashboard will show that saved rhythm the next time you return on the same device.

Does the app send reminders or emails automatically?

Not right now. The current follow-up loop is local to this device only. It does not send notifications, texts, or emails, and changing it does not contact the other person.

Is this therapy?

No. Relationship Recharge is structured reflection, not therapy, legal advice, emergency support, or diagnosis. If you feel unsafe, threatened, monitored, or afraid of retaliation, this app may flag safety concerns and encourage trusted human support instead of couple conversation.

When should I stop shared mode?

1. 1Stop if either person feels afraid, monitored, threatened, coerced, or unable to speak freely.
2. 2Do not invite someone if the invitation could create retaliation or pressure.
3. 3Use private support, trusted human help, or qualified local help instead of trying to repair inside the app.
4. 4For immediate danger, contact local emergency services or trusted local support.

How do I tell whether I need a pause or a full stop?

A pause usually means the timing, pace, or amount of exposure feels wrong right now. A full stop means the real issue is fear, coercion, monitoring, retaliation risk, or the loss of free choice. If you are unsure, move back to private reflection first and treat safety signals seriously.

What if the shared summary still feels too exposing?

That signal matters even if raw text stays private. Sometimes the summary reveals more emotional meaning than the moment can hold. A trust-first flow should make it easy to keep the summary private, slow down, or stop shared mode instead of pushing you through discomfort.

Can I use it alone?

Yes. Use Solo mode from the Just for Me toggle. You will get a private debrief of your own entry without creating a shared session. You can switch to shared mode later if you choose.

Why does the app ask for one moment?

The check-in works best when you pick one repeated scene instead of trying to solve the whole relationship at once. That makes the pattern easier to see and lowers the chance of blame spirals.

How do I restart the tour?

If you skipped the welcome tour and want to see it again, sign in and click the "Restart tour" link at the bottom of the sidebar. The restart flow opens Guided Check-In first so the walkthrough can point to the real check-in sections. If guided onboarding is turned off for the current environment, that tour will stay hidden.